What is Expected of the Bereaved

 Losing someone dear comes with a surge of intense grief and sorrow, it is a great trial seeing a loved one surrender to the cold hands of death as nothing prepares us for losing someone we love, their absence leave a void that mostly can't be filled.

However, accepting their demise with faith and seeing it as a decree of Allah is the best for a  believer .This can only be achieved through patience. we must accept whatever befalls us as a test from Allah, a test we can only pass by exercising a beautiful patience  for verily, after hardship comes ease. This will regulate the manner in which we mourn without going beyond the limit of Shari'ah. Wailing, tearing one's clothes, and questioning Allah's decree are strictly prohibited in Islam so, it is best to hold out and endure though it might be hard at first but man tends to adapt with the pass of time.

 Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “Allah, the Exalted, says: ‘I have no reward other than Jannah for a believing slave of Mine who remains patient for My sake when I take away his beloved one from among the inhabitants of the world”.

  Similarly, Allah says in Surah Baqorah verse 155 thus👇

"And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to As-Sabirun (the patient)". 

In essence, every individual who believes in Allah shall be tested. Such tests can come in the form of fear, hunger, illness, some loss in goods or lives or similar provisions. No one can have a completely blissful life without hardships and the best virtue is patience in whatever circumstance we find ourselves.

However, the dead can no longer engage in acts that may benefit them hence, they need our supplication more than when alive so, it is praiseworthy to engage in rewarding acts on their behalf. as such, giving charity with the intention that the rewards be given to the deceased, supplicating for them, donating on projects that provide water, School or Masjid, donating clothes and foods to charity and other likely acts for them are more beneficial to them because they are continuous form of charity for years to come.  Also, It is very important to pay the debts of the people who are dead, for this can relieve them of punishment in the grave.

In all, losing someone is a reminder that death is just around the corner and can come knocking anytime, we must intensify our worship to Allah and be of good character, this will make us better servants of Allah and bring  us closer to Him