Our Beloved Prophet May Not Be Proud Of Your Children

The Truth Must Be Told

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Abu Dawood (2050) narrated that Ma’qil ibn Yasaar said: A man came to the Prophet (saw) and said, “I have found a woman who is of good lineage and is beautiful, but she does not bear children. Should I marry her?” He said, “No.” Then he came again with the same question and he told him not to marry her. Then he came a third time with the same question and he said: “Marry those who are loving and fertile, for I will be proud of your great numbers before the other nations.” 📚Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Irwa’ al-Ghaleel, 1784. 

Obedient Servant Of Allah!

The above hadeeth indicates that it is encouraged to marry women who are fertile, so that the numbers of the ummah will increase, and so the Prophet (saw) will feel proud of his ummah before all other nations. 

But,

90% of Muslims today are ONLY looking at the above hadeeth from one angle (that's giving birth to many children), and IGNORING looking at the above hadeeth from the other angle (that's preparing ALL their children well to meet up with the REQUIREMENTS of those who our beloved Prophet Muhammad will be proud of).. Yes.. Our beloved Prophet Muhammad will not be proud of all MANNER of children. No!.. Only the righteous & the ones good in character.

Now,

Islam Does Not Oppose Family Planning:

Before i talk on family planning, whether it's acceptable in Islam or not, i will like to draw our attention to the following:

"That Allah (swt) Will Held You Responsible On What Happened To Your Children & Punished You In Your Grave If You Fail In Your Responsibility"

My brother My sister!

Children, according to Islam, are entitled to various rights. The first and foremost of these rights is the right to be properly brought up, raised and educated. This means that children should be given suitable, sufficient, sound and adequate religious, ethical and moral guidance to last them for their entire lives. They should be engraved with true values, the meaning of right and wrong, true and false, correct and incorrect, appropriate and inappropriate and so forth and so on.

If parents fulfill this responsibility, they will be free of the consequences on the Day of Judgement.

But,

Unfortunately, many parents from every walk of life, in every society, regardless of creed, origin, social and economical status, etc., have neglected this very important imposed right of their own children on them. Such individuals have indeed lost their children to evil people as a result of their own negligence. Such parents are so careless about the time their children spend with no benefit, the friends they associate with, the places they go to, etc. Such parents do not care, are totally indifferent about where their children go, when they come back and so forth and so on, causing the children to grow up without any responsible adult and without caring supervision. Such parents neglect even to instruct, direct or guide their children to the proper way of life, behaviour or even right attitudes towards others. Yet, you may find these parents going for 2nd, 3rd or 4th marriage.. Some may travel here, marry and give birth to children.. Visit there, marry and give birth to marry children.

How Would You Marry More Wives or Give Birth To More Children Without Responding To Their Needs & Obligations?


I want to start this point with discussing some Quranic verses that relates to spousal responsibility before entering matrimony:

1️⃣وَلْيَسْتَعْفِفِ ٱلَّذِينَ لَا يَجِدُونَ نِكَاحًا حَتَّىٰ يُغْنِيَهُمُ ٱللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ ..."

Let those who find not the wherewithal for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allah gives them means out of His grace..." 📚An-Nur 24:33

This verse enjoins believers to enter into marriage only if one is capable of bearing the responsibility of raising a family and is in a position to meet the physical, social, and economic needs of the spouse and offspring. The explanation of this verse is that it is incumbent upon the husband to provide for the wellbeing and needs of his spouse and future offspring. If he is unable to do so, Allah advises him not to marry and to remain chaste until such time that Allah gives him the means to do so. The verse clearly outlines the concept of responsible parenthood, as marriage is not simply the union of individuals but also an institution for raising a family

Furthermore,

Allah swt (swt) says in the Quran verse below, which succinctly describes the attributes of a family:

2️⃣وَٱلَّذِينَ يَقُولُونَ رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَٰجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّٰتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَٱجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا

And those who pray, “Our Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous. 📚Al-Furqan 25:74

In the above verse, the Holy Quran enjoins Muslims to ask Allah for spouses and children that bring peace and tranquility to the heart. Children who bring “comfort to the eyes” of the parents are those who are undoubtedly healthy, educated, well-behaved, and devout Muslims... There's no doubt that, this requires a heavy investment of time and resources in the upbringing of children and meeting the requirements and needs of the spouse by providing them with the requisite amount of attention and care

Also,

The next verse below, has equated possessions and progeny and labeled them as a source of test or trial in this world:

3️⃣وَٱعْلَمُوٓا۟ أَنَّمَآ أَمْوَٰلُكُمْ وَأَوْلَٰدُكُمْ فِتْنَةٌ وَأَنَّ ٱللَّهَ عِندَهُۥٓ أَجْرٌ عَظِيمٌ

And know that your properties and your children are but a trial and that Allah has with Him a great reward. 📚Al-Anfal 8:28

The Quran verse above equates offspring and material possessions, describing both as a source of trial and tribulation. The lack of possessions and offspring can become a source of great anguish for parents. Similarly, excess wealth and offspring can be a source of trial as parents can become preoccupied with concerns and worries of how to protect and look after them and hence become distracted from following religious injunctions. A state of moderation and balance is therefore the ideal that one must pursue

Now,

Some basic rights of children are mentioned below:

TO BE CONTINUED

Allah alone knows best

سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك نشهد ان لا اله الا انت نستغفرك ونتوابوااليك

Share for Allah's sake